"how do you hold it together"
through this very long adoption process?
Wanna know?
Sometimes I don't.
Like tonight, for instance.
Why do I torture myself reading the posts on the Adopting from Haiti Facebook page?
(Because I love some of these families as if we've actually met;
We've walked this long road together and shared the same burdens,
and I love sharing in their joys.)
When I read posts about the stage we are in now though,
it's too much for me sometimes.
"How long did it take to receive your child's passport?"
7 days
9 days
10 days
2 weeks and 1 day
3 weeks, exactly
What, exactly, do these agencies do differently that my very well paid attorney is not doing?
We weren't notified until 6 weeks in passport processing that our son's photos were missing,
and now,
5 weeks later,
(yes, that's 11 weeks waiting so far)
we still know nothing.
When does our son catch a break??
When will it be his turn?
When can I stop praying for our file and our process and our attorney?
It's incredibly intimidating dealing with foreign attorneys in such a fragile process.
If I'm assertive, I risk alienating the one individual with access to my son's legal documents and who holds the thousands of dollars worth of paperwork that will eventually get him out of Haiti.
I hate this game.
I hate the uncertainty and lack of communication and lack of a liaison with whom to discuss these issues.
I hate the wait
and the years of loneliness and yearning that my child has had to bear.
I hate the complete and utter lack of control over my child's immediate future.
I made our attorney angry in September of 2012 when I asked for proof of Dimitry's file submission to IBESR . . .
I'm afraid it may be time to risk it again.
This mama needs answers and I'm not willing to accept
"These things generally take time" any more.
I want to know when we can expect to have his passport.
I want to be done with this stage and into USCIS.
I want my son home this year.
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